This PR makes a number of improvements to the InvalidateBlock (`invalidateblock` RPC) and RewindBlockIndex functions, primarily around breaking up their long-term cs_main holding. In addition:
* They're made safely interruptible (`bitcoind` can be shutdown, and no progress in either will be lost, though if incomplete, `invalidateblock` won't continue after restart and will need to be called again)
* The validation queue is prevented from overflowing (meaning `invalidateblock` on a very old block will not drive bitcoind OOM) (see #14289).
* `invalidateblock` won't bother to move transactions back into the mempool after 10 blocks (optimization).
Partial Backport of Bitcoin Core PR15402 (commit 519b0bc):
https://github.com/bitcoin/bitcoin/pull/15402/commits/519b0bc5dc5155b6f7e2362c2105552bb7618ad0
//Make last disconnected block BLOCK_FAILED_VALID, even when aborted
Depends on D4804