This PR makes a number of improvements to the InvalidateBlock (`invalidateblock` RPC) and RewindBlockIndex functions, primarily around breaking up their long-term cs_main holding. In addition:
* They're made safely interruptible (`bitcoind` can be shutdown, and no progress in either will be lost, though if incomplete, `invalidateblock` won't continue after restart and will need to be called again)
* The validation queue is prevented from overflowing (meaning `invalidateblock` on a very old block will not drive bitcoind OOM) (see #14289).
* `invalidateblock` won't bother to move transactions back into the mempool after 10 blocks (optimization).
Partial Backport of Bitcoin Core PR15402 (commit 9d6dcc5):
https://github.com/bitcoin/bitcoin/pull/15402/commits/9d6dcc52c6cb0cdcda220fddccaabb0ffd40068d
*Abstract EraseBlockData out of RewindBlockIndex*
Note that the former 'else' branch in RewindBlockIndex is now
dealt with more naturally inside the EraseBlockData call (by
checking whether the parent needs to be re-added as candidate
after deleting a child).