Report and verify expirations

Summary:
Completes backport of core#19988:
https://github.com/bitcoin/bitcoin/pull/19988/commits/fd9a0060f028a4c01bd88f58777dea34bdcbafd1

Depends on D9553.

Test Plan:

ninja all check-all
./test/functional/test_runner.py p2p_tx_download

ninja bitcoin-fuzzers

Reviewers: #bitcoin_abc, PiRK

Reviewed By: #bitcoin_abc, PiRK

Differential Revision: https://reviews.bitcoinabc.org/D9554