Fix mempool package tracking edge case

CalculateMemPoolAncestors was always looping over a transaction's inputs
to find in-mempool parents. When adding a new transaction, this is the
correct behavior, but when removing a transaction, we want to use the
ancestor set that would be calculated by walking mapLinks (which should
in general be the same set, except during a reorg when the mempool is
in an inconsistent state, and the mapLinks-based calculation would be the
correct one).