Revamp option negating policy
Summary:
This is a partial backport of Core PR16097 : https://github.com/bitcoin/bitcoin/pull/16097/commits/b70cc5d73357ea11296f3b6bb81193ba1101e73b
Depends on D5771
Test Plan:
ninja all check-all
Reviewers: #bitcoin_abc, Fabien
Reviewed By: #bitcoin_abc, Fabien
Differential Revision: https://reviews.bitcoinabc.org/D5772