Use mempool's descendent count in the wallet code

Summary:

• mempool: Add explicit max_descendants

TransactionWithinChainLimits would take a 'limit' and check it against ascendants and descendants. This is changed to take an explicit
max ancestors and max descendants value, and to test the corresponding value against its corresponding max.

• mempool: Fix max descendants check

The chain limits check for max descendants would check the descendants of the transaction itself even though the description for -limitdescendantcount says 'any ancestor'. This commit corrects the descendant count check by finding the top parent transaction in the mempool and comparing against that.

• mempool: Calculate descendant maximum thoroughly

This is a partial backport of Core PR12634

Test Plan:

make check

Reviewers: #bitcoin_abc, Fabien

Reviewed By: #bitcoin_abc, Fabien

Subscribers: Fabien

Differential Revision: https://reviews.bitcoinabc.org/D3342