Move oversized checks to the message header class.

Summary: This moves the size check in the CMessageHeader class.

Test Plan:

make check
./test/functional/test_runner.py

Reviewers: #bitcoin_abc, jasonbcox

Reviewed By: #bitcoin_abc, jasonbcox

Subscribers: jasonbcox, teamcity

Differential Revision: https://reviews.bitcoinabc.org/D1136