net: Add flags for port mapping protocols

Summary:
This is a backport of core#18077 [4/13]
https://github.com/bitcoin/bitcoin/pull/18077/commits/4e91b1e24d96e0cdccdd2a3ed034413f3ba6bae6

Depends on D12072

Test Plan: ninja all check-all

Reviewers: #bitcoin_abc, Fabien

Reviewed By: #bitcoin_abc, Fabien

Differential Revision: https://reviews.bitcoinabc.org/D12071