Wallet locking fixes for -DDEBUG_LOCKORDER

Compiling with -DDEBUG_LOCKORDER and running the qa/rpc-test/ regression
tests uncovered a couple of wallet methods that should (but didn't)
acquire the cs_wallet mutext.

I also changed the AssertLockHeld() routine print to stderr and
abort, instead of printing to debug.log and then assert()'ing.
It is annoying to look in debug.log to find out which
AssertLockHeld is failing.