update max-fee-exceeded error message to include RPC
Summary:
This is a backport of core#19339 [2/3]
https://github.com/bitcoin/bitcoin/pull/19339/commits/932564b9cfda8446a957649c2316a52e868ad5d4
Depends on D10464
Test Plan: ninja all check-all
Reviewers: #bitcoin_abc, Fabien
Reviewed By: #bitcoin_abc, Fabien
Subscribers: Fabien
Differential Revision: https://reviews.bitcoinabc.org/D10465