net: don't bind on 0.0.0.0 if binds are restricted to Tor
Summary:
The semantic of `-bind` is to restrict the binding only to some address. If not specified, then the user does not care and we bind to `0.0.0.0`. If specified then we should honor the restriction and bind only to the specified address. Before this change, if no `-bind` is given then we would bind to `0.0.0.0:8333` and to `127.0.0.1:8334` (incoming Tor) which is ok - the user does not care to restrict the binding. However, if only `-bind=addr:port=onion` is given (without ordinary `-bind=`) then we would bind to `addr:port` _and_ to `0.0.0.0:8333` in addition. Change the above to not do the additional bind: if only `-bind=addr:port=onion` is given (without ordinary `-bind=`) then bind to `addr:port` (only) and consider incoming connections to that as Tor and do not advertise it. I.e. a Tor-only node.
Backport of core#20234.
Test Plan:
ninja all check-all
Reviewers: #bitcoin_abc, sdulfari
Reviewed By: #bitcoin_abc, sdulfari
Differential Revision: https://reviews.bitcoinabc.org/D12343