Make it possible to disable Tor binds and abort startup on bind failure

Summary:

Make it possible to disable the Tor binding on 127.0.0.1:8334 and stop startup if any P2P bind fails instead of "if all P2P binds fail".

Backport of core#22729.

Depends on D17661.

Test Plan:

ninja check-functional

Reviewers: #bitcoin_abc, PiRK

Reviewed By: #bitcoin_abc, PiRK

Subscribers: PiRK

Differential Revision: https://reviews.bitcoinabc.org/D17662