This diff does not change behavior, it just renames functions and improves comments

m_is_loaded/IsLoaded() doesn't actually indicate whether or not the
mempool was successfully, loaded, but rather if a load has been
attempted and did not result in a catastrophic ShutdownRequested.

Scripted diff:

-BEGIN VERIFY SCRIPT-
find_regex="\bm_is_loaded\b" \

&& git grep -l -E "$find_regex" \
    | xargs sed -i -E "s@$find_regex@m_load_tried@g"

find_regex="\bIsLoaded\b" \

&& git grep -l -E "$find_regex" \
    | xargs sed -i -E "s@$find_regex@GetLoadTried@g"

find_regex="\bSetIsLoaded\b" \

&& git grep -l -E "$find_regex" \
    | xargs sed -i -E "s@$find_regex@SetLoadTried@g"

-END VERIFY SCRIPT-

https://github.com/bitcoin/bitcoin/pull/25487/commits/813962da0b17b918941c6849996845e35d84a451

Improve comments for [GS]etLoadTried

Also change the param name for SetLoadTried to load_tried.

https://github.com/bitcoin/bitcoin/commit/f9e8e5719f28d84f68f7d75e26c8e7fccac8e7d3

This is a partial backport of core#25487

Depends on D15717

ninja all check-all